Movies Made For Comfort

During this time, I want to help keep people’s spirits up as much as possible. Since we’re all stuck inside with more time on our hands, it’s easy to get wrapped up in this COVID-19 chaos, doom and gloom. We could all use a little mental escape and what better way than curling up on the sofa with a hot cuppa and a good movie. The type of movie that doesn’t require thought. The type of movie that transports you to a simpler time. Something that makes you smile, laugh a little and brings a little bit of light in the darkness.

I was born in the late 90s so most films I find comforting are from the 00s. They just take me back to a simpler time of watching movies on the sofa during rainy days or cinema trips with my Mum. Back when my world was a little smaller. So here are my top 10 comforting films.

1. Legally Blonde

I know, I know, super girly but this film was a constant favourite of mine as a child. Not only is the soundtrack upbeat and fun but the message is empowering. You can do anything you work hard at, despite what people say or think about you. If you keep going through all the struggles and backlash of other people, it will pay off even if no one is on your side. It’s also a good reminder to help people along your way. Elle Woods has lapses in confidence and sense of direction in her life but ,throughout it all, she is kind. She is nice to people who are continually cruel and helps anyone. I think we could all use this reminder right now.

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2. Cheaper By The Dozen

This is another one of my ‘regularly viewed’ from my childhood. I know Steve Martin can be a crowd divider but I just can’t help but love this movie. This also has an awesome soundtrack (can you tell I’m a sucker for musical montages?) and is upbeat and easy to watch. A family of 12 kids and their parents go on holiday together. What could go wrong? It’s filled with typical PG physical comedy (and some adorable kids) it will definitely give your mind a break.

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3. Bridesmaids

A CLASSIC! This film holds so many memories for me. I remember watching it in the cinema with Mum for the first time. We shared many a cinema date just us two and they were so special to me. We’d go while other kids were at school so the cinema was practically empty. It was those times it felt like we were the only people in the whole world. On our drives home we would reminisce about our favourite moments and laugh together all over again. 
I also remember watching this film after my first (and last) night out clubbing. My friends and I collapsed on my sofa and put this movie on. We kicked off our heels, got under blankets and giggled together. I’d take that over clubbing any day!

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4. Practical Magic

Another one of mine and my Mum’s favourites. I can’t remember the first time I watched this but I remember being about 7 or 8 and trying to get my spoon to stir in my cup or trying to get flower petals to fly in the wind. Maybe it was this movie that made me so wary of men? It definitely made me suspicious of a beetle’s squeak. It has everything I love wrapped up in one movie: witches, love stories, revenge, sisterhood and family. This is not just a Halloween movie. 

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5. Hocus Pocus

Staying on the witch theme. This movie is one I normally save for Halloween season but desperate times call for desperate measures. It is an absolute classic and I think I know this movie word for word. It’s one for the whole family and really puts me in a cosy mood. And, yes you guessed it, it has a musical number that I recreated in my bedroom when I was 8. As a kid, I wanted to be Sarah. The funny one, the one who wore purple and the one who all the boys liked, lol! Not sure that happened for me. Sorry 8 year old me!

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6. Christmas With The Coopers

From one holiday to the next. Yes! A Christmas film. Even though it’s spring, I see no harm in recreating the ambience of Christmas. Christmas just seems to be a happier time for me, a cosy time and I can’t help but feel safe in a way. I know that’s not the case for some but it’s a time I really treasure. This film in particular is humbling and beautiful. Not to mention it has an incredibly cute dog. It’s just one happy reminder to love your family, even if they drive you mental or aren’t perfect themselves. So if you’re in quarantine with your family and need a little convincing to love them, this is the movie for you.
P.S in other countries this movie is called ‘Love the Coopers’

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7. The Mask

My friends and I used to watch this round my house all the time. Jim Carrey is a true talent. This was the first movie I saw that combined live filming with animation. I think  this was my first Jim Carrey movie too and it sparked my love for his work. Like all good movies, it has an excellent dog in it too! Oh, and a musical dance number or two!

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8. Bad Moms

This is a perfect time for every Mother in isolation with their kids to watch this. This movie always reminds me that it is okay to not be the perfect parent. The most important things you can give to your kids are love and happy memories. Spend time with them, listen to them, teach them things they will need in life like how to apologise or take care of their mental health. Show them how to unwind, be a good person and just be kids. This movie also highlights the different types of Mothers out there and that it’s okay if you don’t iron your kids underwear like Becky down the road or have 15 million colour coded worksheets. If you’re a good person, you’re a good Mum.

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9. Wine Country

This is more of a recent discovery of mine. It’s about a group of friends going on a weekend break together for one of them is turning 50. They go on a girls trip and tour vineyards but it gets a little messy. They show getting older as something to look forward to and true friendship as something to treasure. I can only hope that my life looks a little like this when I turn 50.

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So there we go, they are the top 9 films I find comforting. I hope they give you some comfort too. Now, please remember this is personal opinion. You may not agree but please feel free to share some of your favourite and comforting movies!

Stay safe. Be kind.

 

 

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Lock Down Daily Routine For Toddlers

Here in the UK, we have been told that, as of this week, we are on lock down. This means we are to stay in our homes as much as possible and only leave for essential reasons. The introvert in me wants to celebrate but the mother in me dreads this time. How do people cope with their kids at home all day, every day. I can’t be the only one that is filled with the anxiety of the thought. Maybe this is the time we’ll be sympathetic to people who commit family massacres. Well, have no fear! I’m here too share our daily routine to make things a little more bearable during these hard times.

I always find routines (especially with children) make the day go faster, more fun and far more peaceful. Children thrive in a routine as they know what to expect to happen when (and let’s be honest, we could all use that in the uncertainty that we’re all living in now). It also ensure you can fit everything you want to into the day and be productive. I always find that being productive really helps my anxiety as my mind is distracted and it’s something small I can control during a situation that is totally out of my control.

So, here is our daily routine. My daughter is nearly 18 months old (just for reference). I hope this is helpful to you mummas right now, feel free to tweak the schedule any which way you like.

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If you don’t have a dog, you can use this time for a walk around your neighbourhood or outside play in your garden. Either way, I think it’s really important our little ones get some fresh air.

Also, you may think that is a lot of time for ‘Free Play’ but we break up this time with: singing songs, reading stories, imaginative play and I let my daughter do her own thing while I watch her and drink my morning coffee.

I hope this was helpful to you! For ideas for “Planned Activity” you can read my blog post At Home Activities For Toddlers. You could also check out Easy Easter Brownies as something else to do with your slightly older children.

Stay safe and watch this space for more content during this tough time. Stay strong mummas, click this link if you need some Mum-tivation!

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You Can’t Bubble Bath and Candle Your Way To Self Love

After the devistating news of Caroline Flack hit the media this week, my social media has been bombarded with #BeKind and Self love content. I would like to clarify I 100% support the #BeKind movement however a lot of content advising people about self love is unhelpful.
As I scroll through my feeds, I see beautifully illustrated posters informing people how to achieve self love like: have a bubble bath, light your favourite candle, make a cup of tea, meditate, drink water and get some sleep. While this is all very good advice for SELF CARE, this will not help you achieve SELF LOVE.

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Self love is accepting yourself for who you are. No exceptions. It’s the art of being kind to yourself. I say an art because it’s more of a skill than you think. Everyone has that voice in their head telling them “You’re not good enough” or “Why are you so pathetic?” or even “You don’t deserve to be happy” and some voices might be louder than others. Self love is recognising that voice and turning your thoughts around. It’s harder than you think because we have such a nasty habbit of being cruel to ourselves. We would never say these things to someone in real life (I hope) or if we heard someone saying this to somebody else we would think it was incredibly cruel, so why do we talk to ourselves in this way?

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As someone who struggles with these voices (some days are louder than others), I am trying my hardest to turn them around. I’ve noticed they come more frequently since becoming a mother. I think this is because being a good Mum is so incredibly important to me. I constantly think, as long as I’m a good Mum, nothing else matters. It doesn’t matter if I’m struggling, it doesn’t matter if I haven’t had 10 seconds to myself and it doesn’t matter if people judge me for being a stay-at-home Mum (and boy do they!). This means, as soon as Olivia has an ‘off’ day or is grumpy, I instantly hear those voices. “You’re a rubbish Mum”, “You can’t do anything right”, “You’re her Mum and you can’t even make her happy”. This is when I have to stop my train of thought, notice I’m being harsh on myself and turn it around. “You’re not a rubbish Mum, she’s clean and healthy. You’re doing fine”, “There are kids much worse off than she is”, “She’s just having a grumpy moment, it’s nothing you’ve done”.

It’s hard to reverse bad habits as anyone who has tried to quit smoking, cut out sugar or stop biting your nails, knows. It’s even harder to reverse bad mental habits. Especially when you don’t even notice them happening.

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A lot of these voices can be prompted from Social Media. Seeing perfectly sculpted and airbrushed models and comparing your body or seeing that person’s ‘perfect’ life and comparing yours, can make you feel fat and ugly or like your life is a mess or not good enough. One woman you should follow to break up your ‘perfect’ feed and inject it with realness and self love is Chessie King! She promotes a lot of body confidence, healthy habbits, self love and anti-bullying. She is such an inspiration on how to keep smiling through this messy life and enjoy it! She is planning her wedding at the moment so I’m loving watching her process on how to enjoy wedding planning rather than getting stressed. Not to mention she recently became a Doula too. She’s just incredible.
So definitely follow @chessiekingg on Instagram!

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Chessie King @chessiekingg on Instagram

 

So please remember to #BeKind to others but also remember it’s equally important to #BeKind to yourself!

Images taken from Pinterest.

5 Reasons You Need To Get Outdoors This Season

Everyone who knows me knows that Autumn is my favourite time of year for many reasons. It gets a little chillier, the leaves are beautiful colours and you can get all wrapped up in your comfies and cosies to go for a walk. Nothing brings me more joy than wearing snuggly jumpers, brown boots, winter coats, scarves, hats and gloves and going outside. Not to mention, watching Cody run through the multicoloured leaves on the floor brings such a sweet smile to my face.

I understand that this time of year isn’t for everyone, but it is still important to get outside this season. There are so many benefits!

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#1 IT’S GOOD FOR THE MIND

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It’s been proven that walking outside can improve your mental health. Even just taking a walk around your local area can force you to be mindful. Taking time to admire and appreciate your surroundings can keep you present and in the moment. As you walk, listen to your breathing or your rhythmic steps to help you relax from your stresses and clear your head. If you can, organise a walk with friends or family and take time to appreciate them in your life. Which brings me onto my next point.

#2 FAMILY TIME OPPORTUNITY

Taking a walk with the ones you love is a good way to make memories. On a walk it is harder for family members to be distracted by mobile phones, laptops or the TV, encouraging more quality conversation amongst one another. It’s also really beneficial for children to be outside in the fresh air (not to mention help get rid of some of that excess energy). Kids love to explore so taking a walk in the woods or your local nature reserve will also engage their brains. Even if it’s raining. It’s a great opportunity for everyone to put on their waterproofs and wellies and go splashing in puddles and then coming inside to dry off with a nice hot chocolate or soup. That’s guaranteed to make memories.

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As a Mum with a young daughter, meeting with other mums (to vent and share experiences) is so valuable. One of the best ways to do this is to wrap your babies up and go for a walk. Maybe even grab a coffee to walk round with (Mums always appreciate a caffeine intake whenever possible). As a dog owner, nothing makes my day that bit easier than a tired pooch. Cody especially gets tired out when he has had the chance to run around with other dogs (like his girlfriend, Darla) because it’s not just the exercise that wears them out, it is also the social interaction (I guess they’re more like humans than we think). Speaking of sleeping…

#3 YOU’LL SLEEP BETTER

Being out in the daylight, soaking up that vitamin D, even if it is minimal this time of year (I mean, this is England) is a huge health benefit. The exposure to daylight helps our body clock and our struggle with daylight savings time. We find it easier to adjust to the darker evenings if we spend more time outside. Vitamin D fights day time fatigue and can battle that sluggish winter feeling. So if you’re feeling the affect of the winter blues, get outside!

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#4 IT BOOSTS PRODUCTIVITY

Not only does vitamin D fight off that sluggish daytime feeling, but going for a walk can really blow away those mental cobwebs. Exercise gets your blood pumping and muscles working which can start your momentum for the whole day. Once your body and mind have been kickstarted you will feel more alert and may even feel more inspired. Even going for a 20 minute walk during your lunch break can stop you hitting a wall in the afternoon and losing your energy.

#5 ENJOY THE BEAUTY BEFORE WINTER SETS IN

This is probably my favourite reason. Mostly because of all the photo opportunities (I’m kind of obsessed with photos) but also the chance to marvel at all the things that make me love this season. The different coloured leaves falling from the trees like confetti, hunting for conkers and seeing the last glimpses of wildlife before they hibernate for the winter. Autumn is a beautiful reminder that even in darker times, there is beauty.

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Here are some pictures from our most recent autumnal walk.

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Mum-tivation

I think as parents we all have those days that are harder than others and sometimes those days can feel like weeks or turn into weeks and its hard to remember a time where things were good and sometimes it’s hard to have hope that they’ll be good again. You try to tell yourself that this storm will pass but when you’re stuck in the rain it’s hard to think of anything else. You think “I’m a mum (or dad) I should know what to do” or “I should be able to figure out how to calm my distressed child” or “why can’t I figure out what my child needs”. And I hate to use the F word but you feel like a failure. Right?
If this is you, take comfort in the fact every parent has been where you are right now. It’s okay to feel that way. You’re not doing anything wrong. If you have made sure your child is: safe, healthy, fed, dry, clean, warm, burped, cuddled, loved and comfortable then you have done your job to the max. Sometimes kids are demons (yes I am including newborns). Sometimes they’re going through development changes that we just don’t understand or are having a cranky day or are just being sh*ts. That doesn’t mean it’s your fault or you’re not doing enough. Being a Mum for me has been the most mentally challenging thing. One day you could be having the best day. Long naps, healthy meals, trips to the park, all the chores done and the next it could be no naps, refusing to eat, never leaving the house and living in a pig sty. But the bad times make you appreciate the good. So if you need to cry because your tiny human won’t stop crying, go ahead! If you need to put them to bed early so you can have a glass of wine and cry into that, do it! If you need to hide chocolates in the tampon box in the bathroom so you can secretly eat while your family think your pooping… is that one just me?
I thought I would share some ‘mum’ quotes that help me when I feel like this. Maybe they can help you too.

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Feel free to return to this page anytime you need that boost or send it to someone to remind them they’re doing a good job. I think mums need to help build each other up more and not mum shame one another. #mindyourownmotherhood
Go and tell that Mumma that she is doing an amazing job!

I found all these quotes on Pinterest.